In society, men are almost always seen as and spoken about as if they’re the default sex and that women either came from men (religion), are lesser than men in every way (religion and bullshit), or both. However, biologically and sociologically (through the lens of truth), women are the default, if you really wanna play that game.

In common speech we subtly, but regularly, hear women being thrown down a peg in the way that they’re described. Women aren’t just athletes, they’re “female athletes.” They’re “female doctors. They’re “female engineers.” Women aren’t anything but secondary, less impressive, less competent… they are inferior, so therefore, their accomplishments are inherently less than in every way compared to men. You know, because being not as strong, tall, or fast makes you inherently inferior in every way including the mind, right? Right?

And therefore, because women are made to be seen as inferior, they can’t be the default.

Really? Okay, but what does biology say?

According to numerous studies, it has been found that human life begins as female in the womb, a biological fact that shapes the early stages of development (Don’t believe me? Look it up; don’t be ignorant). During the first weeks after conception, embryos have the same basic anatomy, and it’s not until about six to seven weeks into pregnancy that the presence of a Y chromosome triggers the production of testosterone, leading to male differentiation. Without this hormonal shift, the embryo will continue developing along a default female pathway. This process highlights that, fundamentally, all humans start life with female structures, challenging long-held assumptions about sex and gender. (I mean… why do you think men have nipples? What purpose do they serve them? 🤨 – Yeah, that’s what I thought. 😒)

Imagine what it feels like to grow up in a world where you’re constantly being told, both directly and indirectly, that you’re inherently inferior because you were born a certain sex. (It may be hard for many of you men out there because, you know, the complete lack of empathy.) Growing up we hear that if you do anything like a girl, it means you’re uncoordinated and weak. Being called anything related to femaleness or femininity is derogatory. We’re told to act like a lady, instead of being able to exist as we are while the saying “boys will be boys” gets thrown around to excuse every little thing a boy or man does. Within any type of media, there’s always a chance of misogyny ruining the way girls and women see themselves. It’s everywhere; it’s never-ending. Our self-esteem is constantly being challenged. Most people know the truth, but many succumb to the lies. It’s frustrating having to listen to nonstop disrespect. And when you do choose to speak out against it, you get ridiculed or worse. All hell breaks loose. The perpetual threat of male violence doesn’t help either. Neither do their fragile egos.

Misogyny is so rampant, it’s common for boys and men to have it directed towards them as well. It’s ironic. Males that look, dress, talk, or act feminine are often detested and seen as gross. One word to describe these males is “effeminate.” The definition of which is derogatory… effeminate: “(with reference to a man) having characteristics and ways of behaving traditionally associated with women and regarded as inappropriate for a man.” –Women are things to be objectified and used. Why would you stoop so low as to be like one. Why would you replace your humanness with that of an object?! You’re not a female though so we can’t objectify you like we do to them, but we can bully you and beat you to a pulp or death instead.- It’s seen as offensive or an abomination for males to be female-like.

Now tell me, who grows and creates life? Oh yeah, I almost forgot, it’s god the father. Silly me, I was about to say females 😝smh. -I’m such a silly goose, you can’t take me anywhere.- Men have such a superiority complex that they feel the need to take the most divine aspect of life, the ability to create life, and make it to where they are the ones who solely harbor the capacity of it. Creating life isn’t a male characteristic. Yes, they help the process at the beginning, but that’s about it. They like to say they provide the “seed.” Wrong. The female egg is the seed; the male sperm is the fertilizer that provides only half of the DNA and a certain chromosome. A male ejaculates and he’s done; he gets a moment of pleasure and thinks he’s created life. 🤣 The female is the one who does all the work in creating and growing life within her. She has to feel the pain and discomfort. She’s the one who has to deal with a changing body and the possible side effects that come with it. She’s the one who has to go through the trauma of giving birth. She is strong. She is divine. And, men hate this. They are so jealous of this fact that they had to create stories and religions revolving around them to make themselves feel better about what they are incapable of. –God isn’t male nor female, but we’ll still call it Him, He, His, Father, and Son anyway just to make sure the females know that males are superior. Let’s make up stories that this god with male pronouns created all life. Oh, and we’ll also make sure to add that women need to submit to men and that they are men’s property, like livestock. Oh, oh, and men can have multiple wives, but women can’t have multiple husbands. And so on, and so forth, blah, blah, blah…- It’s a shame that so many women and men get indoctrinated into believing pure garbage. It’s despicable just how much fear is instilled within people of the threat of hell and torture if you don’t believe in and worship made up gods. The reason behind it all is so clear the moment you use your brain, instead of relying on blind faith like you’ve been taught to do. Religion is nothing but another form of power and control used to manipulate the masses with fear. It perpetuates patriarchal societies, leaving women and girls at the very bottom to be subjects of oppression through lies and violence.

Remember,

women and girls, you are powerful and incredibly important. Your strength doesn’t stop at the physical, but it continues through your intelligence, creativity, resilience, empathy, nurture, love, and so much more. You are deserving of respect and opportunities in every area of life. Your voice matters, and your potential is limitless. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. Stand tall in your immense worth, and don’t let the lies bring you down.

2. Reinforces Discrimination

Societal standards often wield the power to reinforce discrimination, perpetuating harmful stereotypes and biases that can marginalize and oppress minority groups. When these standards uphold prejudiced beliefs and practices, they create an environment where discrimination not only persists but is also normalized. This can have far-reaching consequences, leading to unequal opportunities, social exclusion, and even systemic injustices. To combat discrimination effectively, it is crucial to challenge and reshape these societal norms, fostering a more inclusive and equitable society where diversity is celebrated rather than stigmatized.

3. Group-think

Conformity often paves the way for group-think, a phenomenon in which individuals prioritize harmony and consensus over critical thinking and alternative viewpoints. In environments where conformity is highly prized, dissenting opinions may be suppressed or discouraged, inhibiting the robust debate essential for making well-informed decisions. Consequently, groupthink can result in sub-optimal choices, as individuals refrain from challenging the status quo or exploring innovative solutions due to the pressure to conform to prevailing group norms.

4. Mental Health

The relentless pressure to conform to societal standards can also have a profound impact on mental health, often leading to debilitating stress, anxiety, and depression. Individuals who find it challenging to align with these rigid norms may experience a constant sense of inadequacy, as if they are falling short of society’s expectations. The emotional toll of this struggle can be overwhelming, undermining well-being and exacerbating mental health issues, emphasizing the need for a more compassionate and accepting society that values individual diversity.

5. Change & Progress

Societal standards, when overly rigid, can have the potential to stifle change and hinder progress, particularly in critical areas like human rights and environmental conservation. When people conform to entrenched norms, they may be resistant to adopting new perspectives or embracing necessary changes, even when the status quo is unsustainable or unjust. This resistance can slow down efforts to address pressing global challenges, impeding the advancement of more equitable and sustainable societies.

6. Lack of Empathy

Furthermore, excessive conformity can foster a lack of empathy towards individuals who deviate from societal norms, leading to social isolation and division. When people rigidly adhere to prevailing standards, they may struggle to understand or relate to those who do not fit the mold, further deepening societal divides. This lack of empathy can undermine the fabric of a compassionate and inclusive society, where understanding and acceptance of diverse perspectives are crucial for unity and cooperation.

7. Questioning Authority

Moreover, individuals may be discouraged from questioning authority figures or challenging the actions of those in power. This suppression of questioning authority can lead to unchecked abuses of power and a lack of accountability, as dissenting voices are silenced or dismissed. Over time, this erosion of the checks and balances necessary for a healthy society can have serious consequences, undermining trust and transparency within institutions and leadership.

8. Taking Risks

Conformity often discourages individuals from taking calculated risks, as the fear of deviating from the norm can be paralyzing. Yet, taking risks, when measured and thoughtful, can lead to personal and societal growth. Such risks can drive innovation, foster entrepreneurship, and pave the way for novel solutions to complex problems, making them essential for progress and development.

9. Autonomy

Conformity can erode a person’s sense of autonomy and self-determination, leaving individuals feeling like they must conform to external expectations rather than make choices aligned with their true desires and values. This erosion of autonomy can lead to a sense of powerlessness and even resentment, as individuals may feel compelled to conform against their will. Preserving autonomy is vital for fostering a sense of agency and personal fulfillment, allowing individuals to shape their lives in accordance with their unique aspirations and needs.

10. Unhealhty Behaviours

Societal standards can often perpetuate unhealthy behaviors by endorsing norms that prioritize excessive competition, workaholism, and unrealistic body image ideals. These standards can lead to a culture of overwork and burnout, as individuals feel pressured to meet unattainable expectations.

1. Practice Self-Care:

Make time for activities that nurture your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. This can include activities like taking a warm bath, practicing mindfulness or meditation, reading a book, a yoga session, or engaging in a hobby you enjoy. Whatever it is, enjoy it fully and guilt-free. You deserve to feel good in your body, mind, and soul.

2. Positive Affirmations:

Use positive self-talk and affirmations to counter negative thoughts or self-doubt in order to boost your confidence and self-esteem. Remind yourself of your worth, strengths, and capabilities regularly. You are great and you should know it. Don’t let your negative thoughts and doubts bring you down.

3. Set Boundaries:

Learn to set healthy boundaries in your relationships and prioritize your needs and well-being. Saying “no” when necessary and creating space for self-care and personal growth is essential. You have the right to say “no” to things that drain your energy or don’t serve you.

4. Embrace Imperfections:

Accept that nobody is perfect, and that includes yourself. Realize that being imperfect is okay. Embrace your flaws and mistakes as part of your unique journey and focus on self-improvement rather than self-criticism. Understand them as opportunities for growth and learning. Your flaws and mistakes are part of what makes you unique and beautiful.

5. Surround Yourself with Positivity:

Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Cultivate a positive and supportive social circle that encourages self-acceptance and personal growth.

6. Practice Gratitude:

Regularly express gratitude for the things you have and the qualities you possess. Keep a gratitude journal or take a few moments each day to reflect on the positive aspects of your life. You have so much to be thankful for in your life. Don’t take it for granted.

7. Prioritize Self-Compassion:

Be gentle with yourself. Treat yourself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness. Practice self-compassion by acknowledging that everyone makes mistakes and treating yourself with the same compassion you would offer to a loved one. You are your own best friend, so treat yourself like one.

8. Celebrate Achievements:

Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Recognize your efforts and give yourself credit for the progress you make on your personal journey. You are awesome and you should celebrate it.

9. Embrace Self-Expression:

Allow yourself to express your true self authentically. Engage in activities that allow you to express your creativity, passions, and unique qualities without worrying about what others think. You have a unique voice and a unique style. Don’t be afraid to let them out.

10. Focus on Inner Growth:

Cultivate a mindset of continuous learning and personal growth. Set goals, pursue new experiences, and invest time in activities that align with your values and interests. Embrace the process of self-discovery and self-improvement. You are a work in progress, and that’s exciting.

Remember,

self-love and acceptance are not something you achieve overnight, but something you practice every day. Start with small steps, be gentle with yourself, and remember that you are worthy of love and acceptance just as much as anyone else.